Let me tell you a bit about me…

Let me tell you a bit about me…

For years I was trying to be the “good girl” when it came to sex, and relationships.

That meant pretending to be someone I wasn’t—until inevitably my “bad girl” would break free and wreak havoc.

After a devastating breakup with a man who would have been a wonderful father but not a fulfilling partner, I found myself sobbing on my mother’s floor, thinking: “I just cannot face another date.” What I realized was that I couldn’t face another date the way I had been doing them.

Something had to change because I was certainly not ready to give up on relationships or sex.

So I dove headfirst into learning everything I could about dating, sex, intimacy, and relationships. This time, I knew it had to be different. My “good girl” and my “bad girl” had to take a back seat—it was time for my “woman” to step up and take the lead.

Not only that, I decided it was going to be fun. I set rules for myself, turned dating into a game, and everything shifted. That was over two decades ago

Now, my beloved and I have been applying all the lessons I learned from my studies and creating a kind of relationship lab—a place to explore what truly works for us.

We live in Santa Cruz in a sweet little house with two cats, a garden, and a circle of friends. We both work from home, doing what we love.

And after all these years together… we’re getting married. (Check out my blog post to learn more about this story.)

And what I love is helping my clients—smart, successful men and couples who already know how to succeed in other parts of life—create relationships that work for them, on their own terms.

So, I read everything I could find on dating, sex, intimacy and relationships. I knew that this time it was going to be different. My “good girl” and my “bad girl” needed to take a back seat and it was time for my “woman” to step up and be the driving force in my dating.

Not only that, but it was going to be fun! I made some rules for myself and made dating into a game. That was over 20 years ago.

My beloved and I have now been together for 19 years.

We live in a sweet little house in Santa Cruz with two cats, a yard, and friends who come and go. We both work from home doing what we love.

I love working with my clients—smart, successful men who can’t talk to a women to save their lives.

Because I know how much courage it takes to bring your whole self forward—to risk rejection, or worse, to settle for years with the wrong person out of fear there’s no one else out there.

I also know that most of us were given crap-ass models for relationships, and that finding what works for you as a couple can feel like a herculean task. You don’t have to do it alone. Let me help you.

I see clients in Santa Cruz, CA and Menlo Park, CA for in-person Sex and Relationship

Coaching. I also provide virtual coaching opportunities.