Cutting the Energetic Cord: How I Freed Myself from an Emotional Loop
Sometimes, relationships evolve in ways that no longer serve us, and letting go can feel like an impossible task.
This was my experience with someone I dated for three years. When we began, we were polyamorous, which worked for us at the time. But as he chose to transition to monogamy, our relationship also shifted. We continued in different forms, adapting to the changes, but eventually, it became clear: I was never going to have what I truly wanted in that relationship.
Despite knowing this, I felt stuck. Thoughts of him looped through my mind several times a day, creating a cycle that was hard to break. It wasn’t about wanting to be with him anymore; it was something deeper—an energetic tie that kept pulling me back. No matter how much I tried to move forward, the emotional residue lingered, keeping me tethered to the past.
I needed to cut the energetic cords with him.
Now, I’ve guided my clients through cord-cutting rituals before, but this time, it was personal. And let me tell you—I wasn’t about to mess around.
The ritual itself was totally off-the-cuff. I grounded myself, took a few deep breaths, and I went straight to the source: my energy. Moving through each of my seven chakras, I imagined cutting the cords—his to me, mine to him—with all the precision of an emotional ninja. Chop! (Yes, I made the hand motions of chopping in front of each chakra.) With every cut, I called my energy back, placing my hands on each chakra to seal the deal.
Three days later, something wild happened. For the first time in years, I wasn’t thinking about him every day. The mental loop? Gone. It was like someone had cleared out a junk drawer in my brain. From that moment on, I finally felt free.
Now, when I see him, I feel gratitude for the time we shared. But even more, I’m grateful for the freedom I’ve reclaimed. That cord-cutting ritual? It made space for me to deepen my connection with my current partner and step fully into the life I desire. Letting go of that energetic tie didn’t erase the past, but it sure as hell gave me a future.
So, if you’re stuck in a loop, here’s my advice: try a cord-cutting ritual. You don’t need a fancy setup or a Pinterest-worthy altar. You just need your intention and a willingness to let go. It’s not about denying the importance of the relationship or pretending it never happened. It’s about reclaiming your energy, releasing what no longer serves you, and making room for something better. Trust me, your future self will thank you.
By the way, cord-cutting isn’t just for ending relationships—it’s a powerful tool for creating space in ongoing ones, too. When we interact deeply with someone, especially over time, energetic connections form. These cords can carry both nourishing and draining energy. A cord-cutting ritual allows you to release the unhelpful ties while keeping the positive connections intact.
Basic Steps to Cord Cutting Ritual
Ground Yourself: Take a few deep breaths, feel your feet on the ground, and center your energy.
Set Your Intention: Focus on letting go of whatever needs to go. (You don’t need to analyze every detail or rehash the entire relationship.)
Visualize the Cords: Visualize the energetic cords connecting you and the other person. Move through each chakra as you imagine these connections.
Cut the Cords: Moving through your seven chakras (or energy centers), envision cutting each cord. Use a mental tool, like scissors or a knife, or simply imagine the cords dissolving.
Reclaim Your Energy: Visualize your energy returning to you, filling the spaces where the cords were attached.
Seal the Work: Visualize a protective bubble surrounding you, filled with your essence and energy. Allow yourself to take up space—you deserve it.
Whether you’re healing from a breakup or re-calibrating a current relationship, cord cutting can be a game-changer. It doesn’t erase the connection but helps you show up in the present—clear, empowered, and ready to move forward.
